CHRISTIAN ADOPTION: Denise

THE PRECIOUS GIFT OF GOD

This love filled testimony was written by a birth grandmother, whose daughter placed her baby with a couple associated with Christian Adoption. All names have been changed to protect their privacy.

(Another successful adoption associated with Christian Adoption.)

Dear Deborah,

The last time I spoke to you was from The Netherlands, Europe. I have been wanting to write to you for the longest time, but with crisis/trials/daily life struggles I just never have time to sit at the computer and do all I want to. First thank you so much for all you have put into your adoption ministry. You are more known than what you think. I know many are praying for Christian Adoption.

I contacted you back in August (1998) after finding out that my daughter was pregnant. We were searching for help on the options she might have and we came across the Christian Adoption ministry right away. We researched and we asked many questions, we prayed with fervent prayers that God would lead us in the right direction. I truly sensed it was God's answer to prayer to find a list of fourteen interested Christian couples--waiting on God to answer their prayers in finding a baby to adopt, love, and make it part of their life. We found these Christian couples listed on your web site, Christian Adoption. My daughter and I went through most of the profiles and prayed for many days ahead as God began to open doors for us to move on with other things that needed to happen like, coming back to the US and having our needs met financially. God has been awesome in responding to us and taking care of all our needs.

Before this took place in my life I was in full time ministry there in the Netherlands and a lot of my finances came by faith. I thought I'd let you know that because the entire process was carefully planned and prayed as God lead us. I felt the many prayers of people that knew of our situation as well as people that cover your ministry in and with prayer support.

Thank you for your effort in organizing the bank of information, references, articles with testimonies, that helped as we continued our journey. Today my grandbaby girl is adopted thru open adoption by a couple chosen from your ministry. I would strongly advise the couples as well as any birthmom or parents involved in this decision, not to rush into things but to research and educate themselves in all the aspects of adoption that they might know exactly what to expect. Even then it is always possible that because of different circumstances the course of the adoption may change some things as expected.

Of course if we all think of the child involved as being the most important thing in the adoption, it makes it easier to work toward the best results for the future of that child. God gives us children as a gift unfortunately some take that for granted when the baby is in their arms. And the most important thing was the child to begin with is no longer that priority. It is in the giving selflessly that we become more like Christ. Unfortunately some come into the concept of adoption thinking of all the benefits "I" will reap out of this. Or look at the great work that "I" have done in taking this child, when truly God is testing our abilities to be responsible and obedient to what He has entrusted to us. As well as all the responsibilities that comes with the whole process of adoption. I think we still yet to educate ourselves more and before we decide to adopt that we might check the motives in our hearts. God wants to bless us but are we willing to obey Him once we receive our blessing, "That precious gift of God" a child to call our own.

Respectfully,

Denise (birth grandmother)

(A week later)

Dear Deborah,

It was nice of you to E-mail me back. I was very happy to hear from you. I know you are a busy person so I thank you for taking time to write. I am praying for your ministry. I know how fast it is growing and the response is truly amazing. I would certainly not mind if you use my testimony for the edifying and encouraging purposes of those in the process of adoption. Anything I can contribute is a pleasure. I have been praying that God would give couples the ability to pray and seek God for this decision that will affect them for the rest of their lives. Most of all in the life of the child they adopt. I pray in particular for this generation of babies brought into this world with a new concept of how their family was put together by the "permissive will of God" in a unique way. Even though adoption has always existed we can't deny all the advances and how well children do when it is done properly.

I am praying for the understanding in the lives of these little ones as they grow to know that God took care of them and He doesn't make mistakes. I particularly pray Deborah that the couples never lose sight of this reunion God put together. Let's not, ever lose sight of the fact that this baby is "a gift from God" from a birth mother who decided this "precious one" would be better in the hands of this couple to nourish, raise and love as their own. This mother selflessly has given that right to bring happiness and joy into a family that by nature could not have their own by birth. If we look at it from God's perspective we see the awesome responsibilities this involves spiritually first, morally, and legally. As a matter of fact, it is what puts at ease the birthmother as she surrenders to God her decision. Let's also treat with respect and dignity the birthmom for the bravery in the giving up of her "precious gift from God". I personally know a family with a child that is five years old and she is still seen as the miracle God provided for them through a young lady that for whatever circumstances couldn't raise her. She is still treated with dignity and respect and has made this extended family such a good example of Christ's love for the world to see, for them to enjoy, share, and bring glory to God. They live in Germany (they are military serving there) and the birth grandparents get a chance to visit with them once a year, also the child knows her birth mother even though she recognizes her just by name and a person who visits sometimes and cares for her. The point is that this child is growing is such a secure environment full of the example, and experience of true love. That it will be easy for her to see God for who HE is and see herself or himself as what God intended them to be. This of course is not for everyone but in a Christian adoption (in understanding "Christian" as Christ like) we must educate, prepare, understand the best we can from God's perspective. Then by renewing our minds we may fall under the leading of God to be more Christ-like in everything that has to do with that child and his/her future. God is very pleased when we surrender to HIM knowing that nothing good can come from us unless the Lord plants it in our hearts and develops it as we give it to HIM. That is giving up our rights. Isn't that exactly what God did through Christ whom He gave to us to save the world from sin?

In my opinion the title of a daughter or a son are very important. Also the title of parent (mom, dad) is awesome. As a mother of three girls I know, but as a Christian the title of a "Child of God" is so much more important and it is easy to learn when we show, not tell of the love of Christ in us.

In His Love,

Denise

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